Real Bondage Blog

Any self respecting perv, over time, amases a huge array of bondage toys. Thing is, if your like most purchasers of any type of goods, you probabily ended up paying over the odds for your sex toys. When buying toys bear in mind that you are investing in your pleasure and that in the area of sex toys, quality should always win. I mean who cares if you saved 10 dollars on a cheaper dildo or BDSM device if it breaks off in your ass.

I guess it comes down to be shrewd with your purchases, but don’t cheap out. For example, Extreme Restraints may be slightly more expensive than another provider but if you look around at the right time, you can not only get for example, 25% off retail but also pick up cool (and kinky) bondage gifts for $1 a go. It’s stores like this and a bit of canny shopping that will get you a toy chest full in no time at all, at a knock down price.

Ok peeps, so your host is now back from the whistlestop tour to Amsterdam (Thanks easjet for the super cheap flights!)

We got there quite early so we got look around town for a bit, and it was a mixture of happyness and sadness that some of the old BDSM communinty haunts where still there, although I didn’t see foxies, THE pre SM club hangout. I searched the right place but I was in a rush so It may (I hope) still be there. Other golden oldies of bondage haunts where Absolute Danny (The alternative shop for your fetish clothes need, yep that one, of world wide repute) as well as the DeMask shop, that I have to confess I hadn’t noticed before.

It makes you laugh about how repressed other nations are when it comes to sexual freedom (or if in bondage, restraint) when you can go into these places and watch a real live (if somewhat tame) SM show. The windows of these places are full of bondage gear, and other bits, all being sold to these oh so innocent customers. Can you imagine this type of shop in your area, or is it me that thinks the way they are playing this is most excellent. The other laughable thing is, that Amsterdam has a lot of underground (or rather discreetly disguised) BDSM clubs. Not going into where they are (kinda defeats the object, and it gives you some fun finding out) and you can go in there as a semi regular (ie they know you) and you can play or just sit and watch. It really is an interesting place to go if you want to experience the wilder side of it all.

There won’t be a  blog post tommorow. Sorry. Im off to the Netherlands again. The place where my bondage/kinky side exploded for the first time.  It’s all good, and hopefully I’ll be back post bondage party with some hot tales to tell and even more bondage ideas. Check back later everyone. I’m off to have some sexy bondage and torture sessions!

Sometimes, people get stubborn.  Stubborn as in they are having so much fun, they refuse to come. Ok, you may think, their loss. However when you have 3 (yes three!) people doing unspeakable things to her, and she is hanging on in there, floating on a pre orgasm high, its too much.So there she was, being tied to the ceiling, in a dungeon, being whipped quite hard on the pussy whilst being teased and stroked everywhere else (Don’t you know, taking away one of yours senses sends the others into overdrive), whilst being told what a total bondage slut she was. She was dancing to the whip but refused to come. “Do you want to come” her Domme asked. “No” came the reply. No matter what we did to encourage her to come, she refused to let go, enjoying the moment too much.

It could have been argued that she was being bratty, but all reason and common sense had left her. She was loving every second of it. This behavior continued for at least 10 minutes, us having a crowd of people now watching. So we were all becoming tired of handling various floggers and whips.

It was decided that I as her partner should take her over the edge. The method? Human touch. Once you know your partner, you can effectively force an orgasm out of them. This partner was endowed with a huge, but highly sensitive clit.

I whispered in her ear all sorts of nasty names which was obviously turning her on because every time I used words, she would shiver as if in a little pre orgasm orgasm. Doing this whilst slowly stroking her engorged clit she started to tremble, and cry. This meant an orgasm could only be moments away. Seconds later she did come, she came so hard that we had to get her out of her bondage and carry her somewhere quiet to recover.

An unfortunate problem a lot of people have is getting their parter into bondage or getting their partner to put them in bondage.

Part of the reason that people freak is that a lot of bondage is percieved as very extreme and hardcore. Sure there is a lot of it but its up to you at what level you play the bondage game. Some people just like a bit of kink to spice up sex, some people see that as the beginning of bondage.

Persuading a partner into kinky bondage play may be easier than you think. For example, some women put put their hands behind their head, potentially indicating that they want them to be restricted, ie bound.

It may sound crazy but its true. Watch and see. The greatest tool you can have in sussing out what your partner may or may not be is watching when you suggest things to them. Ladies are conditioned to be lady like and not to blurt out their sexual desires. Try though, ask in a quiet intimate moment what they fantasise about.

If you really wan’t to take the bull by the horns, get all strict, in a playful way and suprise your partner with a suprise bondage session. Hell for less than 60 bucks you can get snaplink type cuffs to tie your victim, sorry, partner to the bed. Ok you have to take control and deal with all the “but I..”,”I don’t know…” etc but once you have your partner in a nice bit of snap cuff bondage.

Once you have tied up your lover, you can start to play, and show her it can be fun. Some ideas include carressing and stroking, including parts your not allowed to normally stroke. What they gonna do? Stop you ?

What your demonstrating is that bondage isn’t all about hardcore and BDSM. Your showing it can be fun, sexy and pleasurable.

It seems the whole world is doing it, bondage is everywhere, bondage is now mainsteam. Hell, bondage is even a fashion in some respects. Yet some of us fear we have missed it. We fear what we do not know. It’s too late, forget about it. Bullshit is what I say, you can always learn about bondage and starting bondage. Not everybody involved in bondage knows everything. Look at it like a job. You may be good at your job, excellent even. However you had to learn things in order to get there, learn things to stay current, and even now, you probably don’t know it all.

So how do you tackle it? Easy, baby bondage steps. Read about it. Check out websites about it. Ask your partner to tie you up to see how it feels (Tip, the thing about rope bondage is the sensual feeling that accompanies it. ie slow, secure and immobilizing. Don’t rush it) And then if your partner is hot to the idea, she (or indeed he) can do all sorts to your helpless but v horny body)

Ok done it now? So, tell me, what was so bad about that? It wasn’t full of jargon or BDSM double speak, straight forward stuff works great. Keep It Simple Stupid is the motto that applies here)

The biggest secret is there is no secret, it’s just a case of read, practice then practice some more until it becomes second nature and you can whip someone into a hogtie as quick as look at them.

Hi everyone,

As this site progresses, bits get added. A small part of it is selections of bondage pics. Take a look here. Hope you like it. Hell I might even get round to adding a commentary to it. You lucky lucky bondage lovers. Over time, I shall add more hot bondage pics with damsels in distress and some naughty boys getting the harsh treatment.

As some of you are no doubt aware, there are bondage meets all round the country ( you didn't ? Where have you been for the last decade) G and I used to frequent these bondage parties sometimes, it was all new and shiny bondage to me. Ok so it was a new world, there were CDs, rubberists, Masochists, Sadists, rubber boys, all manner of people with a different aspect on bondage, and when the party got flowing there were plenty of scening.

There were people who liked to do bondage in public (Kinda like games at a party ) I found it intriguing to watch these people play. Ok so being the wrong side of the water I had yet to have my eyes opened to a fuller extent, but watching theses people play bondage made me excited and nervous at the same time. Would I ever play in public? Big question. Then a little later it dawned on me, you don’t NEED to do this. If bondage is all new, why not try out the best bondage ever, bedroom bondage, with your partner.

Bedroom bondage rules because bondage, as with any other form of sex, is as much about intimacy as the actual act of bondage. Intimacy like this is best in the bedroom. You have no one watching you, critiquing you in the back of your mind. Ok, so you fuck up a bit, fumble a bit at first. Does it really matter ? fuck no. It's about fun, excitement and bondage kinks. If it wasn't any of these, we wouldn't do it.

Ok, so maybe you want to try it but don’t know how? There are plenty of books on the subject, an especially good one is Mistress Lauris Domination for good girls. Guys, if you want to approach the subject with your lover, and she is “unsure” or “don’t know what to do” this book is dynamite.

When it comes to bondage and BDSM, there are two methods to get what you require. You can be nice or nasty. It’s a game of wills. As a friend of mine put it, physical persuasion is easy, its the mental persuasion that is hard. She gave me an example of this. She had a friend who was very much the bondage submissive, but he had certain issues regarding some of the things he wanted to experience. Specifically he wanted to see what another mans cock felt like, in his mouth and his backside. Problem was, he couldn’t bring himself to do it, so he approached my friend for her help. “Sure”, she replied. “Do you prefer the bondage stick or the bondage carrot?”. Somewhat confused by her reply, he asked her to explain it. “You have two choices” she explained. You can either do it because you want to, or because I made you. He scoffed at this idea of him being made to do anything, after all how was this 5′8 woman going to make him do anything he didn’t want to. He did however agree that he would be open to her trying.

A few weeks went by, and they attended a play party together. He understood that something may happen, and was resigned but excited by the fact that he may no longer have control. He knew he had his safe word, and he only had to utter it and it would all stop. They began to play a little and then after a few minutes, a male from the party came forward. Our friend was tied on all fours, expecting a general play, a bit of cock and ball bondage and play. He wasn’t expecting this, but he had an idea of what was going to happen. Running wasn’t an option as he was manicaled to the floor. Defense mechanism, shut all possible holes. However, secretly he was still getting turned on by the idea.

His mouth was shut tight in an effort to stop anything happening, although he wanted it to. He had his safe word, and my friend looking out for him so no harm would come to him. Then suddenly, he could no longer breath through his nose. His Mistress (my friend) had pinched his nose shut, so everyone knew it was just a matter of time before it was open for business, so to speak.

After a very red face and about 20 seconds, he opened to exhale a breath of air, and as he did his teeth collided with a o ring gag. (If you haven’t seen one of these yet, check it out here) This held his mouth open. He knew his fate was complete. He now knew the meaning of the bondage stick or bondage carrot in real terms.

The other guy knew it was his first time so was teasing but fair and not forcing anything. Looking on, this guy who was forced to accept this wasn’t exactly pulling away (well as much as you can, anchored to the floor) and seemed to be enjoying it. Although that was his fun for that night, it apparently made him very much more receptive and willing to try ideas. He later confessed that he did actually enjoy it but it was the taboo associated with it that he was really fearful of. Once he had tried it, he was very much up to try it again, except this time, there was no need to force the issue.

So the moral of this tale? For one, be careful what you wish for, it may come true. Secondly, sometimes people need a little help getting over their (or indeed societies) taboos. To have achieved this any other way would have taken months of planning and persuasion and cajoling to even get near to what they managed to achieve in one month. Basically, a time and a place for everything.