Real Bondage Blog

N and I have started playing again. You’ll be glad to know that i’m sure. Not playing in the normal sense. She wanted to play with my mind, and who am I to refuse such a gorgeous woman! She bought me a little present of a CB3000. I laughed at first, She didn’t. At that point she asked, nah, told me that it was going on in the morning and I had better please myself before bedtime because it wasn’t coming off for a day or two. Ok, so I was quite intrigued and I thought I would walk this little bondage/denial thing. So next morning it went on. Lots of hints and tips to follow

I think I may have been walking like a cowboy for a while, but after you get used to it, it isn’t so bad, in fact it’s very sexy in a perverse kind of way.

After a few hours it gets harder, the compulsion to pull one off when your semi flacid and can’t get hard is massive, but then again you don’t want to let down your super sexy dominant partner, do you!

Later that evening I was so desperate to orgasm I would have done just about anything to be relieved. To add to my torture, I was told to come and kneel in front of N. She unbuttoned my shirt and then started playing with my nipples, hard. The little minx! Ok, so now it was painful, I was so excited I was dripping, but still no relief. She laughed as she knew I wanted it so much but wasn’t allowed and really couldn’t do anything about it.

We then went to bed and N purposely ignored me. It was so frustrating. My mind was hers. Anything for release!

So I had to think other things. Eventually I fell asleep but woke up about 3am with such a raging semi hardon that it was agony. No way could I sleep. Who would have thought morning wood could be so painful!!!!!

Eventually I came back to bed and slept a bit and was woken up with my nipples being kissed. Oh how erotic but I wasn’t going to escape. N then looked at me, dead in the eye and stroked my balls. The pain came back again. She then laughed, unlocked me and told me to finish myself off. I did, and it was one of the biggest orgasms I have ever had! I even got a cuddle off N post orgasm. She told me it may well become a permanent fixture. Maybe I will blog a bit later about the mental aspect of this, mental bondage if you will.

In my younger, and perhaps more care free days, I met several people on the internet, some of whom I had relations with, some I didn’t. This was back in the early dates of internet dating. Now though there is a whole explosion of sites to join and hopefully find some to do the most nice awful things to you as well as put up with your bad habits

Browsing around though, you can see where people have put the effort in, and where they havent. This is the differentiator between the successful and not successful, or to put it bluntly, getting some and not getting some!

So in my ever public spirited mind, I have composed a little blog post on finding your bondage playmate. It has worked for me in the past and to be honest, the most important bits never change.

1. Be honest. “No shit” I hear you say, well the amount of ads I have seen that come from people who really either have no clue or are blatently lying is quite staggering. Imagine meeting someone, getting on with them like a house on fire and then saying you really really aren’t an experienced Master or Mistress, makes you out to be a liar and a dick, so just don’t. Ok. There is no shame in admitting your new, we all had to do to it some time. You will get more respect and a higher probability of fun if you are honest.

2. Dont use txt speak m8. It sounds kinda obvious but you will get a lot further with a well written advert with correct spelling and grammer. Ladies are especially put off by bad spelling, or grammer. It’s not good. IF, like me you are a bit crap at grammer, write up your advert text in Word or your word processor, spell check it, then copy and paste it into the web page. It’s easy and it only takes two seconds to get it looking right.

3. Be creative. Ok, I would be the first to admit that I am not the most interesting of people in day to day life, but you have to jazz it up and be honest but give it a bit of pizzaz, use descriptive words, emphasise your great points. Talk yourself up a bit. Have a unique selling point. What makes you different. Why should this sexy Domme choose you over the other guys? Be unique thats how.

4. Write plenty. This, my friends is super important. There is nothing more frustrating than liking the look of someone, clicking and reading and having a two line about me section. A few paragraphs should be a minimum. TOP tip - Mention what you could do for your partner, not just what you would like done to you In the bedroom or out !

Here is a site that I recommend, and more to the point, its free (an added bonus

Oh you lucky pervs, I have just begun creating a new blog, a blog about the sexy adult bondage stars past and present. I love bondage (you kinda guessed that huh) and bondage films so I thought i’d bring together all the information I could find on bondage films and bondage stars. I’ll try and post daily, and give you some interesting information as well as looking at less well known BDSM markets such as Euro BDSM (utterly sexy pervs and film makers to boot) and Japanese BDSM (Very unusual)

Anyhow, the fruits of my labour this far can be seen at bondagefilms.info

Hope you like it as much as I enjoyed putting it all together.

It ain’t no secret, it’s just doing it. Ok I may bang on about it, but just do it. If you want to be lazy just use snapcuffs, kinda cheating though!

The other idea is to get a bit of knowledge. Books and indeed the internet are your friends. You can even find them listed in Amazon these days.

Alternatively, if you want to see some others in action, why not take a look at 24/7 Bondage Cam. It’s a free to join cam site (like duh you hadn’t figured that already!) but there are a lot of experienced bondage people on there that will show you how cool can play, although you can only watch until you get your ass into gear and get those handcuffs jangling.

On returning from my trip abroad I had a relaxing evening with a few friends and a few beers. The subject turned (kinda inevitable wasn’t it!) to what I got up to. They knew I was a little bondage freak and then after much badgering it turned to did I own a gimp mask and gear (jokey jokey ifywim). I told them, obviously, I am a fucking bondage freak!

So ok, a few days of light hearted joking occurred when I saw them although it was discussed in perhaps not the most appropriate times or situations, if you get what I mean. Mouth engaged before brain.

Then a week or so later I dropped round and after a few cold ones, the questions changed. What’s bondage like? What is so good about bondage ? A first just little questions about bondage, but even being half cut, I knew they were wanting info.

I promised to drop round with a few of my books (not ones of me silly, the ABCs of bondage!) I really wasn’t up for discussing it so I made my excuses and went to leave. D’s girlfriend then accidentally (?) blurted that the thought of bondage made her “drippin” I was shocked, and I am not one to be easily shocked, but hey, you never know, they may end up getting “gimped up” as they joked at first.

We all know what day it is today,  maybe today you should think about starting your bondage adventures.  Think about it, what better day could you choose to try it. A nice meal, nice day, everyone is all loved up and open to better love making, and that my friends means bondage. Ok, so you can’t run to the store and get all your bondage gear, but why not broach the subject of bondage and tying up. If your a little shy on that one, try creating some cards with various things that *both* of you would like to try and put some of your own bondage ideas in there, and just see what happens!

Ok peeps, so your host is now back from the whistlestop tour to Amsterdam (Thanks easjet for the super cheap flights!)

We got there quite early so we got look around town for a bit, and it was a mixture of happyness and sadness that some of the old BDSM communinty haunts where still there, although I didn’t see foxies, THE pre SM club hangout. I searched the right place but I was in a rush so It may (I hope) still be there. Other golden oldies of bondage haunts where Absolute Danny (The alternative shop for your fetish clothes need, yep that one, of world wide repute) as well as the DeMask shop, that I have to confess I hadn’t noticed before.

It makes you laugh about how repressed other nations are when it comes to sexual freedom (or if in bondage, restraint) when you can go into these places and watch a real live (if somewhat tame) SM show. The windows of these places are full of bondage gear, and other bits, all being sold to these oh so innocent customers. Can you imagine this type of shop in your area, or is it me that thinks the way they are playing this is most excellent. The other laughable thing is, that Amsterdam has a lot of underground (or rather discreetly disguised) BDSM clubs. Not going into where they are (kinda defeats the object, and it gives you some fun finding out) and you can go in there as a semi regular (ie they know you) and you can play or just sit and watch. It really is an interesting place to go if you want to experience the wilder side of it all.

An unfortunate problem a lot of people have is getting their parter into bondage or getting their partner to put them in bondage.

Part of the reason that people freak is that a lot of bondage is percieved as very extreme and hardcore. Sure there is a lot of it but its up to you at what level you play the bondage game. Some people just like a bit of kink to spice up sex, some people see that as the beginning of bondage.

Persuading a partner into kinky bondage play may be easier than you think. For example, some women put put their hands behind their head, potentially indicating that they want them to be restricted, ie bound.

It may sound crazy but its true. Watch and see. The greatest tool you can have in sussing out what your partner may or may not be is watching when you suggest things to them. Ladies are conditioned to be lady like and not to blurt out their sexual desires. Try though, ask in a quiet intimate moment what they fantasise about.

If you really wan’t to take the bull by the horns, get all strict, in a playful way and suprise your partner with a suprise bondage session. Hell for less than 60 bucks you can get snaplink type cuffs to tie your victim, sorry, partner to the bed. Ok you have to take control and deal with all the “but I..”,”I don’t know…” etc but once you have your partner in a nice bit of snap cuff bondage.

Once you have tied up your lover, you can start to play, and show her it can be fun. Some ideas include carressing and stroking, including parts your not allowed to normally stroke. What they gonna do? Stop you ?

What your demonstrating is that bondage isn’t all about hardcore and BDSM. Your showing it can be fun, sexy and pleasurable.

Hi everyone,

As this site progresses, bits get added. A small part of it is selections of bondage pics. Take a look here. Hope you like it. Hell I might even get round to adding a commentary to it. You lucky lucky bondage lovers. Over time, I shall add more hot bondage pics with damsels in distress and some naughty boys getting the harsh treatment.