Real Bondage Blog

Getting excited sitting in front of the TV when you don’t have anything naughty on the tv is kinda wierd. I was watching a program last night ( a cheap soap at that) and this guy had captured and bound this poor woman. Gagged and wriggling on the sofa, I suddenly felt a twinge and took an interest. Ok so it wasn’t overtly sexual to most people, but it was to me.

I figure that if your into bondage, you know from an early age. I remember I was. It’s a blessing and a curse at the same time.

Although it took me many years to accept it, I now revel in it and wouldn’t change it for the world!

Working at bondage is difficult but rewarding. The most important bit about it is communication. Both top and bottom have to listen. Bit obvious but I was reminded of this fact during the week, and it could have had nasty repercussions, had I not sad down and just listened.

Unlike this poor girl who may have a problem communicating:

Saw this whilst surfing and ok, being the sad bondage gimp that I am I found this raised a little chuckle. Hey bondage is too serious to take seriously. Apologies to my non uk viewers who may not get it, but hey, hope it raised a bondage inspired smile.

I came across an interesting article at the BBC of all places about the effects of sensory deprivation. So ok, we all know to have some of our senses removed is interesting and makes various bits tingle with fun. There are those that do it for longer periods of time. Some fetishists claim to do it for the entire weekend. But what happens when all your senses are taken away from you (or as many as possible)

If you read this article, it goes on to mention the temporary detrimental effects on people and their loss of perception, dis orientation and the likes.

It makes an interesting read, but it also tells you that sensory deprivation can have good sides and bad sides.

Short term sensory deprivation can be very very exciting. Take it from someone who has tried it and enjoys it on a frequent basis.

If you want to try it, may I suggest reading a bit about it first here.

Check out this site with more ideas on how to make today a super kinky day. Specially designed for newbies

I was sitting there watching the idiot box the other afternoon and on the adverts for some show there was a slight bondage twist in as much as a lady (submissive) in a nice frilly white dress was standing , hands tied behind her back(pure and innocent you think) and then what can only be assumed to be her Master comes along and lifts up this white dress with a riding crop. At this point, I thought “wow”. There was no communication, just a sense of you knew what was coming , everyone knew some hardcore BDSM play was coming.  Sometimes an image can speak a thousand words. To add to the effect, it was even in black and white, which can be great!

There won’t be a  blog post tommorow. Sorry. Im off to the Netherlands again. The place where my bondage/kinky side exploded for the first time.  It’s all good, and hopefully I’ll be back post bondage party with some hot tales to tell and even more bondage ideas. Check back later everyone. I’m off to have some sexy bondage and torture sessions!

Sometimes, people get stubborn.  Stubborn as in they are having so much fun, they refuse to come. Ok, you may think, their loss. However when you have 3 (yes three!) people doing unspeakable things to her, and she is hanging on in there, floating on a pre orgasm high, its too much.So there she was, being tied to the ceiling, in a dungeon, being whipped quite hard on the pussy whilst being teased and stroked everywhere else (Don’t you know, taking away one of yours senses sends the others into overdrive), whilst being told what a total bondage slut she was. She was dancing to the whip but refused to come. “Do you want to come” her Domme asked. “No” came the reply. No matter what we did to encourage her to come, she refused to let go, enjoying the moment too much.

It could have been argued that she was being bratty, but all reason and common sense had left her. She was loving every second of it. This behavior continued for at least 10 minutes, us having a crowd of people now watching. So we were all becoming tired of handling various floggers and whips.

It was decided that I as her partner should take her over the edge. The method? Human touch. Once you know your partner, you can effectively force an orgasm out of them. This partner was endowed with a huge, but highly sensitive clit.

I whispered in her ear all sorts of nasty names which was obviously turning her on because every time I used words, she would shiver as if in a little pre orgasm orgasm. Doing this whilst slowly stroking her engorged clit she started to tremble, and cry. This meant an orgasm could only be moments away. Seconds later she did come, she came so hard that we had to get her out of her bondage and carry her somewhere quiet to recover.

It seems the whole world is doing it, bondage is everywhere, bondage is now mainsteam. Hell, bondage is even a fashion in some respects. Yet some of us fear we have missed it. We fear what we do not know. It’s too late, forget about it. Bullshit is what I say, you can always learn about bondage and starting bondage. Not everybody involved in bondage knows everything. Look at it like a job. You may be good at your job, excellent even. However you had to learn things in order to get there, learn things to stay current, and even now, you probably don’t know it all.

So how do you tackle it? Easy, baby bondage steps. Read about it. Check out websites about it. Ask your partner to tie you up to see how it feels (Tip, the thing about rope bondage is the sensual feeling that accompanies it. ie slow, secure and immobilizing. Don’t rush it) And then if your partner is hot to the idea, she (or indeed he) can do all sorts to your helpless but v horny body)

Ok done it now? So, tell me, what was so bad about that? It wasn’t full of jargon or BDSM double speak, straight forward stuff works great. Keep It Simple Stupid is the motto that applies here)

The biggest secret is there is no secret, it’s just a case of read, practice then practice some more until it becomes second nature and you can whip someone into a hogtie as quick as look at them.