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It has been staring me in the face for a while, just it never occurred to me.

Ok so we like bondage, hell you wouldn’t be reading my bondage blog if you weren’t. However when you think about your partner, which way do you think about them?

A) Submissive and wanting your every bit of torture, tease and orgasm or

B) In control, dominating you and not really giving you a choice in your sexual subservience.

One, or both (if you are a greedy little switch ) thoughts will take you to horny land. In amongst all this crap, what I am thinking, is maybe you have got your roles back to front.

Do you know she isn’t massive sexual deviant twho wants to inflict torture on your sexual bits (In the positive way, not negative).

However she (or indeed he) may feel obligated to perform the role you defined for them? Don’t know/Not sure, just ask them. They may sigh relief and tell you to get upstairs and prepare to get totally dominated and your ass whipped or alternatively they may kneel at your feet and demand to be punished for being naughty.

Saw this whilst surfing and ok, being the sad bondage gimp that I am I found this raised a little chuckle. Hey bondage is too serious to take seriously. Apologies to my non uk viewers who may not get it, but hey, hope it raised a bondage inspired smile.

I came across an interesting article at the BBC of all places about the effects of sensory deprivation. So ok, we all know to have some of our senses removed is interesting and makes various bits tingle with fun. There are those that do it for longer periods of time. Some fetishists claim to do it for the entire weekend. But what happens when all your senses are taken away from you (or as many as possible)

If you read this article, it goes on to mention the temporary detrimental effects on people and their loss of perception, dis orientation and the likes.

It makes an interesting read, but it also tells you that sensory deprivation can have good sides and bad sides.

Short term sensory deprivation can be very very exciting. Take it from someone who has tried it and enjoys it on a frequent basis.

If you want to try it, may I suggest reading a bit about it first here.

A post on another blog prompted me into thinking about it. There are those dominants, the ones that are direct, to the point, and know their bondage shit. Then there are the type that waffle on, unsure of what they are doing. If someone was going to tie you up in bondage, which one would you preferred to be tied by. How does all this affect you? Well if you are doling out the punishment (in the nicest bondage sense of the word) try working on:

a) Knowing what you are doing. If you are unsure of what you are doing, read up on it here. Don’t cheat and use handcuffs. Impress your plaything with some proper bondage, like you can find in this book.

b) Secondly if you issue a threat, don’t wimp out on carrying out the punishment if needed. Bare that in mind before you issue the threat.

c) Plan, at least roughly how you want you bondage session to go. Failing to plan, is planning to fail.

Check out this site with more ideas on how to make today a super kinky day. Specially designed for newbies

We all know what day it is today,  maybe today you should think about starting your bondage adventures.  Think about it, what better day could you choose to try it. A nice meal, nice day, everyone is all loved up and open to better love making, and that my friends means bondage. Ok, so you can’t run to the store and get all your bondage gear, but why not broach the subject of bondage and tying up. If your a little shy on that one, try creating some cards with various things that *both* of you would like to try and put some of your own bondage ideas in there, and just see what happens!

I was sitting there watching the idiot box the other afternoon and on the adverts for some show there was a slight bondage twist in as much as a lady (submissive) in a nice frilly white dress was standing , hands tied behind her back(pure and innocent you think) and then what can only be assumed to be her Master comes along and lifts up this white dress with a riding crop. At this point, I thought “wow”. There was no communication, just a sense of you knew what was coming , everyone knew some hardcore BDSM play was coming.  Sometimes an image can speak a thousand words. To add to the effect, it was even in black and white, which can be great!

Any self respecting perv, over time, amases a huge array of bondage toys. Thing is, if your like most purchasers of any type of goods, you probabily ended up paying over the odds for your sex toys. When buying toys bear in mind that you are investing in your pleasure and that in the area of sex toys, quality should always win. I mean who cares if you saved 10 dollars on a cheaper dildo or BDSM device if it breaks off in your ass.

I guess it comes down to be shrewd with your purchases, but don’t cheap out. For example, Extreme Restraints may be slightly more expensive than another provider but if you look around at the right time, you can not only get for example, 25% off retail but also pick up cool (and kinky) bondage gifts for $1 a go. It’s stores like this and a bit of canny shopping that will get you a toy chest full in no time at all, at a knock down price.

Ok peeps, so your host is now back from the whistlestop tour to Amsterdam (Thanks easjet for the super cheap flights!)

We got there quite early so we got look around town for a bit, and it was a mixture of happyness and sadness that some of the old BDSM communinty haunts where still there, although I didn’t see foxies, THE pre SM club hangout. I searched the right place but I was in a rush so It may (I hope) still be there. Other golden oldies of bondage haunts where Absolute Danny (The alternative shop for your fetish clothes need, yep that one, of world wide repute) as well as the DeMask shop, that I have to confess I hadn’t noticed before.

It makes you laugh about how repressed other nations are when it comes to sexual freedom (or if in bondage, restraint) when you can go into these places and watch a real live (if somewhat tame) SM show. The windows of these places are full of bondage gear, and other bits, all being sold to these oh so innocent customers. Can you imagine this type of shop in your area, or is it me that thinks the way they are playing this is most excellent. The other laughable thing is, that Amsterdam has a lot of underground (or rather discreetly disguised) BDSM clubs. Not going into where they are (kinda defeats the object, and it gives you some fun finding out) and you can go in there as a semi regular (ie they know you) and you can play or just sit and watch. It really is an interesting place to go if you want to experience the wilder side of it all.

There won’t be a  blog post tommorow. Sorry. Im off to the Netherlands again. The place where my bondage/kinky side exploded for the first time.  It’s all good, and hopefully I’ll be back post bondage party with some hot tales to tell and even more bondage ideas. Check back later everyone. I’m off to have some sexy bondage and torture sessions!